Monday, October 13, 2008

What Single Girls/Woman Can Learn From "Fireproof"

A couple weeks ago, we were blessed to go see the latest movie produced by Christians. Fireproof, was a movie based on saving your marriage. Caleb (Kirk Cameron) is a firefighter who (as the movie puts is) is a hero to everyone except his own wife. When they finally decided to get a divorce, his father steps in and challenges Caleb to put it off for forty-days in order to go through the "Love Dare", a journal that calls one to do certain acts of kindness towards the other spouse. When it seems that all is failing, Caleb is brought to Christ, in order to understand the true meaning of love.
In the end Caleb eventually wins back the heart of his wife, and they continue to strive to make their marriage fireproof!

Though the movie was more geared towards married couples, I, as a single girl, still gained a great lesson from it. Throughout the movie, we are introduced to a co-worker of Caleb's wife, Dr. Gavin , who sets out to win the heart of Caleb's wife. She in turn responds positively, and we are left with the picture of her giving her heart away to man who is not her husband.

As single girls, we need to guarded our hearts and not let them be easily stolen. The picture that was portrayed by Caleb's wife giving her heart away is a perfect picture of what it looks like when we give our hearts away to someone whom we do not plan to marry, or when we are not even ready for marriage. When we give our hearts away, it is almost like adultery in God's eyes for He has already picked out our future spouse, and when we give away our hearts to someone He has not chosen, then there is nothing left to give to the man that we do marry. We as single girls, need to learn to guard our hearts, so that when we do meet the man we are going to marry we can then fully give him our whole hearts. If we go through life falling in love with the next cute boy, by the time we meet our true prince charming, we will have noting left to give to him.

This is such an important lesson that most girls these days do not understand. They think that we have to "try out" different guys through the dating system. That we have to find our own prince charming. We must remember that God has a man picked out just for you and me, all we have to do is wait till He brings him into our lives, and prepare for that special moment when we can give our hearts to the man that God has chosen, in His good time!


Kenny Anderson said...

Great post Kaila! This is, for dad reasons, one of my favorite posts ever :) Keep posting and guarding your heart. What cute boys?

Grandma of Many said...

Kaila, your post made tears come to my eyes. I am so proud of you for posting such an awesome comment of girls guarding their hearts. I went and saw the movie a second time and even more things came to me that I didn't see the first time. God is so good when he can work through all different venues in getting His people to understand His Word. Thanks for sharing what you got out of the movie Fireproof. Love you, Grandma Dot

Destiny said...

That was really good Kaila! We should always guard our heart till the one God wants us to marry comes into our life.

Thanks you so much for posting this! You have been such a good example to me and I am so proud to call you my older cousin!


Alexa Sleadd said...

Yay for Fireproof! It made me cry like a baby.

Thank you for the post, too. It's an admonition all us girls need to hear.
I've always wondered what it would be like to guard one's heart in a courtship situation...It seems to me that if a handsome so-and-so comes tromping in and tells your Dad he's noticed your excellent qualities and that he'd like to court you, wouldn't you feel like giving him your heart right then and there?!! Of course, I don't have any experience in this situation, but guarding your heart must be soooo hard to do!!

a southern california girl said...

Kaila, thank you so much for posting this. I needed to hear this, as this is something I've been struggling with. Thanks for letting God use you in this way. God bless you!

Shalom! :-)