By Kaila Anderson
In our society today, even among the churches and Christians, girls and teens are pushed to have a career outside the home when they graduate from high school. To go to college, and be equal with men. Whether to be a teacher, nurse, lawyer, policeman (woman), entrepreneur, and so on. I often am asked if I plan to go to college, or what I want to do with my life, what kind of profession I want to have. It is the mind set of people and young girls today; they don’t seem to think about staying home, it’s not normal. Why even the other day I was talking to a good friend of my younger years, we were best friends, but we sort of lost touch as the years went on. But she was attending college and planned to go into the nursing field, and she asked if I had plans for college. I was shocked, and sad, I had thought that they believed as we did-that the place of a woman is in the home.
Not only does our society try to push woman outside the home, but they put a negative emphasis on stay at home moms and home keepers. Everything is centered towards women being equal with men; but is this so? Is this a biblical approach to the duty of the woman? Are we supposed to go to college and leave the shelter of our fathers and homes and go into the world, get jobs and careers outside the home?
Prov.7 tells us the characteristics of the adulteress, and in verse 11b it says “her feet would not stay at home.” It’s the seductress who leaves her home, who goes out into the world, not the virtuous girl. She stays under the shelter of her father’s home, under his authority. So should any woman/girl go into the world, go to college, get a degree and a career outside the home? –NO. But, if she is not to go to college, then what else is she suppose to do. There doesn’t seem any other option for her role in life.
Here are 5 passages that define the role of womanhood (taken from the “victory for daughters’ cd from vision forum)
1. Helper -Gen.2:18, 21 “And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him. 21 And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. 22 Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into a woman.” Now a day everyone wants to be the chief and no one wants to be the Indians. But to be a helper should be desired, after all what would a chief be without his Indians. The whole reason we were created was to be a helper, from the beginning of time we were called to help our mate, whether that be our husbands, fathers, mothers, siblings. We, as girls, are to help. We are the back bone, as the phrase goes “behind every great man is a great woman.”
The impact a helper has is huge, we are the one who works behind the scenes. God knew that Adam couldn't do it on his own so he created him a helper-us women. We can change the world by encouraging and elevating our husbands to their highest calling. I know that every girl can do this because they were created for this very reason.
2.Homemaker -Titus 2:4 “that they (older women) admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.”
“Love”- it’s a decision not an emotion. Love your family now, your father, mother, siblings. So that you will love your husband and children. Your husband and children will let you down, they aren’t perfect. So you must choose now to love when they let you down.
“be discreet and chaste”- Show good judgment and be pure in all your thoughts.”
“Home makers”- we are to care for the home. We should learn now what home keeping is, not preparing for college. Too often girls leave the task of keeping the house up to their mothers, but learn now to like it, help your mother. And learn what really makes a home a home. This is our true calling- home keepers.
“Husbands”-a girl is to always be under authority, first under her father then her husband. We are to submit to them and obey them.
Col.3:18 “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.”
Eph. “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife.”
"that the Word of God may not be blasphemed"- all Christians say that they have never broking the 3rd commandment (Don't take God's name in vain). But there is more to that commandment. We can break it in our every day living. We can break it by not being who God called us to be-homemakers and helpers.
God has put us under authority and we are to submit to it willingly, it is a blessing. We are not to go tramping off to college, away from our fathers protection, we are to stay there and serve him until we are married, and then serve our husbands and be homemakers. There is nothing more satisfying than this calling.
To be continued....